Showing posts with label Jesus Christ. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jesus Christ. Show all posts

Monday, March 23, 2009

The Hierophant and the Hanged Man

Trying to plan events on Valentines Day is like dancing your way across a minefield. Who can be in a room together? Who likes who? Who will misinterpret the guest list? Zombie movie or vampire? Decisions to be made.

After roladexing through several people that fateful day, I finally settled on Kiersten Mitchell, Sean Dey and Jenn. We decided to watch the most wonderful valentines day movie ever: American Movie. Epic. Truly.

Sean is his usual two hours late. Jenn is getting romantic with House reruns in her bedroom. Keirsten comes over promptly on time and I fall in love all over again.

Keirsten is a mix between Natalie Portman and Blossom (looks like Natalie, dresses like Blossom). She has on jean shorts with tights, a tee shirt and high tops. She’s also rocking a huge pair of black nerd glasses on top of her perfect nose.

Keirsten is a natural hippie, floating through life in bright colors and flowy skirts and all the serenity you can handle. She likes to garden and play guitar and has the sweetest, most gentle manner of speaking. I just pretty much love everything about her.

“Hiiiiiiiii.” She sings, her lovely voice floating through my house. “I brought my tarot cards.”

Keirsten is a beginning psychic and it is the best thing in the world. Because she’s kind of just starting her psychic journey, so sometimes she gets confused about goddesses and seasons and says ‘oh fuck it!’ in that wonderful voice.

We take our generous helpings of single-girl-red-wine and sit down at the table on my front porch. Keirsten takes out her tarot cards and shuffles through.

I feel a pang of discomfort. I had tarot cards in high school when I was a practicing Wiccan, and got rid of them shortly after becoming a Christian. I am not quite sure how I feel about them. Especially after the last few months.

I look behind me to the couch on the other end of my porch. I remember sitting there one night, a few months ago, reading scripture and trying to keep a panic attack at bay. I felt like my heart was wrapped in ice, like something was going to kill me any second and my body was trying desperately to warn me. The bible was shaking in my hands and the words were blurry. I could only think one thing: iamgoingtodieiamgoingtodieiamgoingtodie-

Jenn came out onto the porch and sat across from me. I didn’t say anything to her.

She shivered and stood up. “Do you feel that? It feels….terrible out here. I’m putting on some worship music.” Jenn walked into the house.

I left immediately, terrified and guilty that I had brought some sort of demonic spirit into our house.

But, not all spirits are evil. As Keirsten shuffles I begin praying that only nice, sweet, kind, well-dressed spirits talk to Keirsten. As I pray a card falls out, face up. It is The Devil.

“Great.”

Keirsten picks it up. “You know, that card doesn’t actually mean something bad.”

“Well then it’s horrible marketing.”

“Is there anything specific you want to know?” Kiersten asks, placing the cards in three piles. “Romance, money, job stuff?”

A story from the Old Testament floats up from my memory. Something about a king consulting with a psychic and God getting super pissed that the king didn’t just ask Him. I shrug. “Nah, maybe just a general one.”

She puts the first card.

“That’s you.” Keirsten says. “It’s the heirophant, a woman who is wise but constricted by the people around her.”

She places the next card across the first.



“This card represents your difficulties, your obstacles.”

She puts down another card.


“Wonderful,” I say.

"This represents your fears. Whatever you are the most afraid of, is what ummm..."

"What?"

"Is happening now, or will. Or something." She lays down another card quickly.

"I think she represents the past- success, money, happiness...but I'm not sure..."

"This represents traveling, or some journey, but it's in the place where your finances are supposed to be...hmmm.."


"Well, that's good. That's where you end up."

She then lays four cards in a straight line going down next to these.




My stomach lurches.

“That’s interesting.” Kiersten mumbles.

“What?”

“The Devil card, it’s in the place that signifies what you fear. You’re afraid of the devil?”

“Not thrilled with him.”

Kiersten looks at the other cards. “Ummm….well, this one means, uhh-“ She rummages through her purse for the little booklet that comes with the tarot cards. She points to the blindfolded person. “This represents the past, anguish, solitude, fear. And.. ummm…”

“What does this one mean?” I ask, pointing to card of a boy holding a cup.

“I think, I think that’s supposed to represent your family, but it can’t be. If it does represent your family...hmmm…but that one really should not have come up…”

She flips through the booklet for another few minutes. I sip my wine.

“Oh fuck it!” She sighs, throwing the book down. “I really need to get better at this shit.”

See, she is the greatest, I told you.

“Let me try another way,” Keirsten says.

“Wait. I’ll tell you what I see.” I look at the cards, and it seems very clear to me. “The heirophant is me, Christ is over me, protecting me. I’m trying to view everything through his eyes right now and not mine. This woman is what I used to be, I used to be very strong. The man with knives is what Christ is protecting me from. From myself. And this man riding away represents people that are leaving me. But this other woman over here, the strength card, that’s me, soon. And she’s strong, and she’s alone, but okay with it. And the devil can kiss my ass.”

“See, you are intuitive!” Keirsten smiles happily. “Sometimes you sense things in the cards, sometimes you don’t. It’s hard for me to give readings for people I know.”

I look at the cards and they make me very sad. I pick up the man riding away and smile at him.

“Let me try for you.” I shuffle the rest of the cards. I ask for the spirit to speak through the tarot cards. I cut the deck into three piles and touch my finger tips to each one. I am trying to see if I feel a pull towards one over the other.

I settle on the slimmest pile. I pick it up and move the other two to the side. I lay down the first card.

I lay down the second card.

“Wow.” Keirsten breathes.

“I think that means you should come the fuck back to church.” I say, with all the psychic wisdom I can muster.

The next card is the moon and the stars. Then a priest surrounded by material things.

“Okay, this is what you think Christianity is. Stuff that holds you back and clutters your way. The sun and moon card represents where you are going now, to something pure and simple. But I think Christ is there too, in fact, I think he would rather be there, then where you have left him.”

I point to a card showing two people talking. “I think this means that someone is going to try to control you in some manner. I don’t have a good feeling about it. But I think it’s still connected to spiritual things. Your mother maybe.”

“My father.” Keirsten nods.

“Maybe I should be a tarot card reader for Jesus.”

Keirsten laughs at me. “You could probably get away with it.”

Sean makes his grand entrance just then. Keirsten decides to practice some more on him, and I can hear her frustrated, sweet curses from my kitchen.
~~~~~~~

I hung out with Keirsten tonight, talking tarot, and she let it slip how much she hates getting the devil card. My response: Why? I thought it didn't mean anything bad?

"Oh, ummm, well. Actually it represents evil and suspicion, I just didn't want to upset you."

Un.Be.Leivable.

Monday, March 16, 2009

Kate L.L.C

Ugh. I hate not being able to sleep.

However, I have come to a few conclusions.

Conclusion 1: I am no longer going to use the word 'depressed'. If someone asks, I am going to refer to myself as being in a recession, or 'recessed'.

Depression:
a sustained economic recession in which a nation's Gross National Product (GNP) is falling and marked by low production and sales and a high rate of business failures and unemployment

I've decided that this period of time in my life will not be sustained, thankyouverymuch.

Recession:

1. the act of receding or withdrawing.
2. Economics. a period of an economic contraction, sometimes limited in scope or duration.

The first definition fits me very well, the second is what I am hoping this ends up being.

Conclusion 2: It's hard for America to realize right now that a recession is a good thing- in the long run. The same way it's been hard for me to realize that where I am is a good thing.

1) With gas prices being so high, car companies are forced to make better, greener cars- thus bettering our environment, and helping us become oil-independent.

2) The way house prices were rising, new homes would have been virtually unaffordable for seventy percent of americans.

3) Wall street has been running and ruining our country for too long, their power in the future will be severely limited (whether or not you think this is a good thing depends on your political preference of govt)

4) The downfall of America as an industrial leader and world power is leading to the 'rise of the rest' with India, rural China and south american countries developing a healthy middle class.

5) Foreign countries bailing out our businesses reinforces the interconnectedness of the global market- meaning a future responsibility for the world, not just our flag. Also, no matter what you think Revelations says, China will never go to war with us, because if we fail their entire economy will tank. Take that.

Those are a few bright spots I have been thinking about. I'm sure there are more, as I'm sure there are a million reasons why this sucks and prevention is better than reaction. But a recession, as a reset, can be a great thing. Even if it's painful in the moment- it will get better.

Conclusion 3: I have run my company into the ground.

But through this I have been forced to look at the way I approach friendships and community.
I have to confront the ugly in my heart and actions.
I have to admit that I need help.
I am being purged of the american gospel.
I know now that I really love God for God, not for what he gives me.
I have to admit that Jenn and Jenna are right, a lot.
And I am paying someone a crapload of money a week to tell me what my b.f.f.f.f.f.fs tell me for free (more bad business practices).

I've also been thinking a lot of Christ in the garden. My sufferings, to use a dramatic word, stem a lot from what I don't know about the future, but Christ knew. He knew he was going to die. My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. or in the message: This sorrow is crushing my life out.

As I've prayed in the past few days, I keep seeing flashes of Christ in the garden. When I have felt my heart being crushed, I am experiencing just a tenth of what my savior experienced. And he knew what was going to happen. I believe that Christ had a choice. I think the fact that his fear and wrestling with God is so palpable in scripture should dismiss the complementarian ideologists who claim that Christ only came to die. Bullshit, he showed us how to live. And he loved us enough to die.

He sat in that garden and begged his friends to stay awake with him- because he was terrified. He was facing a gruesome death for the disciples who were lazy cowards. He would die for all the people who accepted his healing and didn't lift a finger against his crucifixion. For the crusaders and evil popes and you and me.

Conclusion 4: Christ went through a recession. He had a shitty few days.

And then: Heaven, sweet heaven.

And Peter, the disciples. The shame and self hatred they must have experienced. Everything was taken from them, everything was changed. But their hearts didn't fail, they turned from sleepy brats into lovers of God and people.

This verse has always been a favorite. I will heretically take out Peter's name and put in mine. I suggest you do the same.

Luke 22:31"Kate, Kate, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Kate, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers and sisters."

le message-

"Kate, stay on your toes. Satan has tried his best to separate all of you from me, like chaff from wheat. Kate, I've prayed for you in particular that you not give in or give out. When you have come through the time of testing, turn to your companions and give them a fresh start."


Conclusion 5: So my recession must be a good thing. It must be a reset button. I will come through, and I will refresh others.

I guess, in business terms, I'm not a very good stock right now. And though a few of my shareholders have dumped me, I feel like I will be a good long term investment for those who are riding it out.

So to my loyal clients: I love you, thank you.
To those who have cashed out: I miss you, I hope you are well.
To those who are thinking about buying in: I'm restructuring, so wait a few months.

Saturday, March 7, 2009

Farrah

Thursday morning I was back in a place I'd never thought I'd be- putting on my make up at seven in the morning in the bathroom of a Westgate timeshare resort. High school revisited. Usually the bathroom is filled with women elbowing for counter space, complaining about weight and men. But now, I was the only one in here. The recession had hit my timeshare resort brutally. When I left I had 250 co-workers. Now there were 40 of us.
Farrah breezed in.
"Kate! You're back! Thank God!" Farrah gave me a big hug. Her hair smelled like Herbal Essence and Coco Chanel.
Farrah is very sensual, very warm. She has big wavy brown hair, and these gorgeous cat green eyes that tilt up at the ends. She has a huge smile, this great raspy voice and curves for days. Farrah is that beautiful girl that dated older men in highschool, because she didn't know any better, but the men did. Cigarettes and alcohol and those men have aged her skin, and now she is more sexy than beautiful. But she still exudes a warmth and confidence I wish I had.
Before I left she had been on and off again with my friend, Frankie. I met Frankie on my first day at Westgate, almost five years ago. He's a super sweet, class clown type. He does the best, and I mean THE best impersonations of all of our bosses and managers. Frankie was one of the few guys I would hug at work. Most guys at my job are pretty sleazy, always making comments. Frankie has always been very vocal about complimenting me, but there was something more sweetly appreciative than suggestive. When Farrah started dating Frankie, I was really excited about it. I assured her that he was one of the best guys I'd met at our job. I'd left shortly after that.
"I have to go to the gym," Farrah complained, checking out her perfect reflection, "all I do is sit around all day with my man."
"Are you still with Frankie?" I asked, brushing on my mascara.
"We've been living together for three months." Farrah said, smoothing her hair.
"Congratulations, are you happy?" Our voices echoed in the empty marble room.
"Oh yeah, he's great. I love him." Farrah smiled at me, that great grin.
"I'm so happy for you." Farrah had had a rough life. She deserved to be with someone that made her happy.

I ran into Frankie that afternoon.
"Oh my God! Mami! You look so skinny!" Frankie twirled me around. "Don't you have a man to feed you?"
"Nope."
Frankie sighed dramatically. He does everything dramatically. "Only the white boys are going to look at you now, mami."

I saw Farrah as I was leaving work today.
"Hey honey," I gave her a hug, "how are you?"
"I've had better days." She said, waving her hand at me. Her middle finger was in a splint, wrapped in clear taping. Through it I could see her finger, bloody and swollen.
"What happened?"
"Frankie slammed it in a door way." Her gaze slid over to her little boy, Logan. Logan is about seven, and he was a few feet away on the stairs.
"Why?"
"Because he's fucking crazy, that's why. He's been beating the shit out of me for six months."
I looked down at her, aghast.
"Last night he locked me in the house for six hours, and beat me with a wet towel, so there wouldn't be any marks."
"Six months?" I asked.
"I'm so fucking stupid. That man has given me scars, bruises, he almost broke my arm last month. Thank God he hasn't done it around Logan." Farrah was talking very fast, very defiantly. "But I'm done, I'm done and if he ever so much as looks at me I'll fucking kill him."
"Farrah, I'm so sorry." I mumbled. "God, if Dave was here, he'd kill him."
"Dave told me, Dave sat me down and told me before we started dating. He did this to his last girlfriend, too. And I didn't listen. So, this is what I get. I'll see you later honey."
She picked up her son and walked off.
Dave was our boss, this big man wrestler-type that everyone lived in fear of. But he looked out for us, specifically the girls. He had left a few months ago, when half of the resort got fired.
I got in my car and tried to picture Frankie angry. I had never seen it. I tried to imagine what his face would look like, twisted in rage as it must have been. I tried to see him hitting Farrah, whipping her with a towel or slamming her hand in a door. I couldn't. I literally could not see it in my mind.
And I thought about this, over and over again:

"Are you still with Frankie?" I aked, brushing on my mascara.
"We've been living together for three months." Farrah said, smoothing her hair.
"Congratulations, are you happy?" Our voices echoed in the empty marble room.
"Oh yeah, he's great. I love him." Farrah smiled at me, that great grin.

My eyes are so weak, my awareness so small. I think that if Jenna had been in that bathroom with us, she would have known. She would have seen something in Farrah's eyes, the way she smiled. Jenna would have seen through her lies.

I remember when Farrah first told me about Frankie. The way her eyes lit up and that smile I adored spread across her face. I was excited for her. Beginnings used to be so exciting to me. Now, any beginning just seems treacherous. It's just a period of time where you don't really know anything at all.

I drove home and could feel my heart sinking. I hurt for Farrah, I put my hand against my chest and could feel pain. Life seems like such a dangerous thing lately. How do I know that I won't smile about a boy next week that will break my arm next year? Could I be so short sighted as to marry a man that would slam me into a wall, or crush me with his fist. I would say that I couldn't. But I still can't picture Frankie angry.

And then I remembered my God. What a precious thing we have in this relationship with Christ. In James it says that prayers for wisdom will always be answered, and that has been true in my life. If I prayed, he would tell me no. Maybe I wouldn't know why he was saying no, but if I trusted him I would walk away from that man. Maybe.

I fell in love when I was 20. I prayed about him and God said no. And I didn't understand why. He was an amazing Christian, he wasn't intimidated by me, he challenged me and made me laugh. God said no and I didn't listen.

And so I experienced what God already knew. Three years of feeling unworthy and used, in love with a boy who kissed me in private and ignored me in public. Three years of him avoiding me for months on end, because God told him to, and then the inevitable phone call. My own weakness.

I realize I'm still recovering from ignoring God. This trust thing is so hard. I'm watching one of my closest friends struggle with bitterness, because he still doesn't have a job. But I know that God hasn't forgotten him. I want to tell Farrah that if she trusts God with her heart, and learns to hear his voice, he will be like Dave and tell her in advance. But it's still up to us to believe him.

I would like to think that I have learned my lesson with relationships. I don't want to play russian roulette with my heart anymore. I need to hear God say, 'this is the way, walk in it'. I used to pray to be kept from doing things- I was always so eager to not be left behind, or miss out. But beginnings are too much for me now. I need God to tell me whether or not a middle or an end is necessary.

This past Wednesday, I spoke to high school about the levitical code. How pissed the Israelites must have been when Moses told them they couldn't eat pork or lobster, crab, squid and the like. They didn't know then the 30 different diseases pigs carry, or how they don't sweat, so the meat is filled with toxins. God didn't tell Moses that the fish he outlawed are water detoxifiers, so the impurities they clean from the water stay in their bodies, and are transmitted to us. He just told them and expected them to trust that he knew better. The ones that did lived two to three times longer than the average person. Still today, people that follow the levitical dietary code live ten to fifteen years longer than the rest of the world.

So, to the handful of blogspotters that follow this- trust him. As Alecia pointed out in her last beautiful blog- we have a banquet in front of us, but we still eat the trash. Oswald Chambers says the reason why we do not pray is because if we hear from God about a thing, we will have to tell him we will not do it, or do it. Both are terrifying.

But he does know, and he will tell us, warn us. God cares about our bodies, our hearts, our jobs.

I should end this more eloquently, but I have nothing else to say other than I love you guys.

Thursday, March 5, 2009

prayer shuffle

Today. Hmmm. I hate when days are bad, without there being an exact reason for them being bad. Nothing happened, I met with people that I loved and I did things that I like...but it was still just bad.

I got in my car tonight, I turned on my IPOD shuffle, and I told God that I needed a song.

Previous to this, I was praying about my job, and how worried I am with it. But even with me being anxious about that, I was still so hesitant to ask God for help. I felt bad asking God to help me succeed at my job. Disappointment is the worst emotion in the world to me. So I realize that I would rather expect nothing from people, and nothing from God, so that I don't have to feel it. My prayers consist of only spiritual gifts- compassion, love, gentleness. Things I am positive that God wants me to have. I don't pray for jobs, or money or physical things. I don't want to risk disappointment, and because of that, I don't risk anything.
I have fought so hard to purge a contractional relationship with God from my mind. I don't want to think that just because I'm a Christian that means I'll have a great life- a perfect husband and family and job. It's so easy to let that theology creep in and poison me. I want to love God only for him, not what he has the ability to give me. I have to know that I will care for God even if I live on the streets and I'm alone. That is real faith, to still trust God with all that. But with that knowledge has now come my belief that God almost wills those things for me. And maybe I will be alone, maybe I will lose my house and everything I have, but sometimes I don't even consider the other options. Perhaps God does will for me to love and be loved, perhaps I could be wealthy and be wise with that. So tonight for the first time in awhile I prayed something that I very much needed God to answer.

Tonight I could feel myself falling- I could feel a tide creeping towards me. So I told God that I needed him to give me a song. I needed to know that he saw me, and that he loved me, and that he had something for me in this very moment.

My Ipod went to Unknown Artist, Track 5. The music started playing and in my head, I was already trying to justify maybe shuffling around a bit. Or laughing the whole thing off as me just being silly, and how I should be fine whether he gave me a song or not. I was already trying to stifle even a hint of disappointment.

And this is what began playing. It's called 'Drown' by my favorite band, House of Heroes (which I imported incorrectly, hence what came up on my Ipod). I couldn't find a video on you tube, but here are the lyrics.

The water's at our knees
It's rising while we speculate to its existing
Sinking merrily
Invincible, convinced no warning is worth heeding

The ocean deep and black
That seemed so shallow
Pulls me under

I'm not giving up that easy
I'm not giving up on anything
Long as I have lungs still breathing
Learn to swim
Before we drown

Come, come one and all
And sacrifice your pride to find a new beginning
Open up your ears
And eyes to see our minds are still in need of changing

If we knew the truth
Would we even care at all
Or be pulled under

I'm not giving up that easy
I'm not giving up on anything
Long as I have lungs still breathing
Learn to swim
Before we drown

Grant us grace to change our minds

I listened to the song and I didn't feel anything. I didn't get excited or in awe. I didn't feel God. But that was okay, because even though I wasn't capable of having an emotional reaction, I still knew that this was the most perfect song for me. I prayed a selfish prayer, and he was loving enough to answer it. The next few songs were wonderful as well-




to finish off was India Arie's "Video Girl"

Perfect. Thanks God.

Thursday, February 26, 2009

my best childhood memory

I had a friend tell me that the only reason I help other people is so that I don't have to work on myself. I very, very sincerely hope that's not true. I don't think it is, but I'm going to pray about it and see what comes up. It brought me to this memory, though:

When I was little I lived in a very communal part of the Bronx. Everyone knew everyone. I was maybe four, and my father was taking my cousin Donna and I to the beach. My dad passed a kid on the street and invited him to come along. He ran to ask his mom and get his suit and by the time he came back we were waiting for another kid to do the same. My next memory is being on the floor behind the drivers seat, between someones shoes. There were two kids in the front seat and five or six in the back. But I remember being really sad when we couldn't fit anymore kids, and I know my dad was sad about it too.

That is one of the best examples of Christ I can think of. I want to be like my dad. I want to be generous and loving for no other reason than seeing joy in someone else.

And that is also my best childhood memory. I told that to my father and he sent me this text today.

I have nothing but wonderful memories with you. I know the best is yet to come. The future is so bright I have to wear shades.

Shades like these: